Saturday, July 19, 2014

Homesick in the Heat

Home.

A little o' noun with galactic meaning. Home is wherever Charley and the girls are at the moment, but occasionally, my childhood home on the McKenzie River creeps into my heart and plays the strings there.

It is these hot, surly days of summer when I miss my river home the most. Summer, for us river kids of eighties, meant playing outside until dusk with the rest of the pack of free roaming kids, huge BBQs, and best of all, entire days spent at one of a dozen different swimming holes.

My dad, a single father who worked too hard, was a tough person to be around some days. But summer days spent at the swimming hole, among friends as close as family, he was happy and light in a way usually wasn't.

The Rope.
Photo courtesy of Patence Winningham
Of all our swimming holes, The Rope was my favorite. It was little more than a wide, deep-ish spot in a small river that drained into the Blue River Reservoir. The water was always very cold and very clear, leaving the colorful rocks and lost keys clearly visible through twenty-five or so feet of water. It was only the bodies hurling from the rope swing that could turn the pristine water opaque.

On top of a high rocky ledge an alder tree grew almost horizontal over the hole to escape the shadows of the canopy.  Tellis Lawson, a half-crazy Vietnam Vet, was the first person I can remember to shimmy the trunk and tie a rope. He tied in a few knots at the end for grip and it dangled just over a shallowly submerged rock shelf. At rest, it took a tall person to wade out on the shelf and, with a stretch, snag the rope. Next you climbed, barefoot and shivering, up the steeply sloped rock face, grabbed onto the highest knot, and swung out over the rock ledge, then at the apex of the swing, which for mid-way up the rock face was about middle of the hole, to drop. Timing was of paramount importance. As a teenager I became adept at diving off the rope; once I didn't angle the swing enough and as I went under, my hands touched the rocks of the opposite bank. I didn't make that mistake again.  Although it was dangerous, in all my years swimming there, none of us were hurt worse than an arm slap from forgetting to tuck in your hands in.

Once the water swirled passed the rocky ledges, the depth tapered off to form a designer little-kids' area. There were half submerged ledges for climbing and jumping, and a sheltered shallow pool, visible to the grown-ups reclining in the shade. Then suddenly the hole ends and creek returns. The whole area is less than half a football field.

Our day was spent swinging off the rope until our hands were raw, jumping off rocks, pretending to drown each other (my brother was especially fond of this game, me—not so much), diving for rocks, and walking across the bottom holding heavy rocks, swimming to the opposite shore, and daring the younger ones to do likewise. And so we played until the grown-ups pulled us out with purple lips and chattering teeth.

While waiting to warm up we raided the red Igloo cooler, stationed in the shade near the lawn chairs held in place by the grown-ups.  I always marveled at how they could spend hours doing nothing but sitting in the shade talking. HOW BORING! Today, I can think of nothing more pleasant.

After eating a PB&J and drinking a cup of red Kool-Aid, we were right back to the water's edge building miniature ponds to hold the minnows we caught. We'd watch them slip through the gaps in the stones, then rush to find smaller rocks and sand to plug the escape routes.

After tiring of that, we'd scale up our construction endeavors and build a dam across the shallow, outflow end of the swimming hole. This would take several kids several hours to span the distance, which was not trivial.

Our lifting muscles tired, our backs sore, it was time to float an air mattress, or an inner tube (the real black rubber ones that would get really hot and give you a contact rash all over), down the “rapids” (is there such a thing as class .1?) sometimes the water was too shallow, or rocks too plentiful, then we'd pick them up hop across the sun warmed rocks and go back in; all the way to reservoir.

Soon, we'd worry that the adults were starting to worry, so back upstream we went, hauling our flotation device, hopping from rock to rock to rock—whoa that one was wobbly! We're back. We check in with the parents—all is good. Warmed by our exertions, it was time to jump back in the water.

At some point during the day, the grown-ups would emerge from the shadows and go in for a swim. My dad, clad in too short cut-off jeans, usually took the trail up to the high rocks, that stood about fifteen feet above the water. He'd pause for a moment, stretch his arms wide, jump lightly, then fold in half, curving his head towards the water while bringing his hands to a point above his head and straightening his legs. He parted the water with a grace and precision that belied his six-foot-four, two-hundred-and-thirty pound frame. Re-emerging, he'd his shake his head and wipe his dripping mustache, and swim, arm over arm, to the rock shelf. A vestige of his privileged Southern California upbringing. All things considered, us kids got a better deal.

The shadows grew long across the water. We drooped with unperceived fatigue. The adults folded up the lawn chairs; my dad hoisted the cooler up to his shoulder. Together, we trekked up the short, steep trail to the hidden parking area. We loaded ourselves into the back of the pickup and broke off branches laden with berries from a ten-foot-tall high wall of red huckleberries. We fought each other to sit on the wheel wells. The pickup rumbled to life and bumped out of the forest on to the paved road.

My hair whipped my face and stung my eyes as I picked my huckleberry branch clean. Getting cold, I nestled into the cab of the truck, lifting my bottom off the truck bed floor when I anticipated big bumps.

At home, I fell into bed and slept more deeply than I will ever again experience.

And so passed the best summer days of my life.

The Rope during the higher waters of winter.
My brother liked to climb that stump and jump off that too.
I climbed up there once, but could never work up the nerve to jump off.
That cliff Nicole is standing on was good enough for me.
Picture courtesy of Calinda Ndoye

Such a great spot.  The cliff to the right is the one my Dad would dive off of.
Picture courtesy of Patence Winningham 

Monday, June 30, 2014

Twelve Terrific Books for Toddlers

A day in the life of a toddler is a busy one. They wake up with the sun and spend their day discovering, experimenting, playing, climbing, i.e. wearing you out. When you have pulled him off the top of table for the zillionth time, and think your head is going to explode if you have to do it again, grab a book. You get to rest while simultaneously bonding, teaching, entertaining, keeping him out of mischief and safe—multitasking at its finest. Below is a list of books and author series my family loved the most. Don't get rid of those baby books just yet, as most kids will stay interested in them until around age four.

Note: Links to Powell's are directed to a new version of each book. Used and sale versions are listed on the right, in a box labeled: More copies of this ISBN. 
If you're a relative or friend of a toddler, books are a fantastic gift, there's no mess, no batteries (usually), they're not noisy (usually), and your thoughtful inscription will be a daily reminder of how much they are loved.


  1. Available at Powell's
    The Berenstain Bears Go to the Doctor  by Stan Berenstain
    This book gets top billing because it helped both my girls through their scared-of-the-doctor phase that set in around the eighteen month mark. It's brilliant simplicity, it walks your child through a check-up and even tackles the scary vaccination issue by quantifying the pain rather than dismissing it. “‘Will it hurt?’ asked Sister Bear. ‘Sure, but not nearly as much as biting your tongue or bumping your shin. There all done.’” I've read this book to them so many times that not only do I have it memorized, sometimes I can hardly stand to look at it. The doctor book—again!? Ug! 
    Pair this book with a toy doctor kit and act out the story as it unfolds. Then watch as they use their newfound understanding of check-ups to perform check-ups on you and their stuffed animals. 

  2. Available at Powell's
    Five Little Monkeys Jumping on the Bed by Eileen Christelow
    My girls loved (and still love) this book. The repetition and rhythm makes it easy to memorize, and it is not long before they'll start saying it along with you or taking over “reading” the story. *Warning: This book reinforces jumping on the bed. Personally I'm a fan of jumping on the bed, but if you're not, you may want to shelve this one...* 

  3. Available at Powell's
    Little Boat by Thomas Docherty
    “The ocean is a big place and I am just a Little Boat.” Little Boat charts his own course and braves the many treacheries of the ocean, “in search of—my friends!” Then he sails over the edge of the world only to find himself righted on the other side. One could write a thesis exploring the oceans of wisdom in this lovely book of a few hundred words. Oh, and it's a favorite of the girls too...

  4. Available at Powell's
    We're Going on a Bear Hunt by Michael Rosen and Helen Oxenbury
    "We're gonna catch a big one. What a beautiful day. We're not scared. Uh Oh…"  Go along with the adorable family as they go out looking for a bear… and find one. This book has lots of repetition your toddler will quickly memorize and start repeating with you. The story is easily adapted into an engaging imagination game; pretend that areas of your house are the different obstacles in the book, then run away from your child's teddy bear, ending up snuggled in your bed, shouting, “We're not going on a bear hunt a-gain!!”

  5. Available at Powell's
    The Story of Ferdinand by Munro Leaf
    O.K., you busted me, I put in a classic book we all remember… But the list felt incomplete without one of my girls' absolute favorites. Ferdinand the Bull, who likes to sit just quietly and smell the flowers has captivated my girls. They laugh when he sits on the poor honey bee and roar when he leaps up with his mouth open and his eyes bugging out.  They ask me why the bullfighters would want to stick spears in a bull, they laugh at the haughty matador when he gets mad, and they are relieved when Ferdinand simply sits on the arena floor and smells the flowers in the hair of all the beautiful ladies. They grin when he is returned to his beloved pasture, where as far as they know he still is to this day, “sitting just quietly smelling the flowers.” My littlest, Berzo, has this book memorized and can be found “reading” it to herself in a basket of teddy bears.

  6. Available at Powell's
    Red Sled by Lita Judge
    The artwork in this wordless book does a wonderful job of telling a story about a curious bear that borrows a little girl's sled for the night.  Each flight down the hill accumulates another passenger on the sled.  The final passenger is the little girl herself.  Berzo can't get enough of this book and the playful animals.  I can see her wishing for a red sled and friendly pile of woodland animals.

  7. Toddler Series
    There were too many books by these particular authors to choose one to the exclusion of the others.  Toddlers have a voracious appetite for fresh material and these authors are happy to oblige.

  8. Leslie Patricelli
    Leslie Patricelli has a wonderful series of hilarious books dealing with typical toddler behavior and milestones. The text is short and sweet and the images are simple and fun. Berzo's favorite was the Potty book that she would act out in every detail when she was potty training, and could be heard shouting “Tinkle, Tinkle, TOOT!” while doing just that.


  9. Mercer Mayer
    Mercer Mayer books have been around since the seventies and they're only getting better. These funny, thoughtful stories are told from Little Critter's perspective. The humor is in the illustrations that often run somewhat contrary to the Little Critter's point of view. It is a humorous take on parenting trials that appeal to the grown-up reader and are a fun story for the kids. I never tire of reading them.

  10. Mo Willems
    Mo Willems writes several series of books the best of which are Knuffle Bunny, Elephant and Piggie, and The Pigeon books. The genius in these stories lies in his ability to caricature normal kid behavior, common parent/child struggles (pigeon books) and relationship issues (Elephant and Piggie), with adorable, expressive animals. The girls and I crack up reading these stories and I don't mind reading them again and again.

  11. The Berenstains
    Berenstain Bears  books isolate life lessons and parent/child struggles in a sweet nurturing way. They speak as much to the parent as the child, we see Mama and Papa struggle with their cubs and seek and find solutions, while simultaneously helping kids cope with normal growing-up troubles. I got tips on managing my daughter's Messy Room, as well as how to deal with The Gimmies when they showed up. They are fun, full of wisdom and good nature.

  12. Jan Brett
    Jan Brett's genius lies in her incredibly detailed and beautiful artwork. Her writing is passable and stories are sometimes a little thin, but her nordic style artwork is a feast for the eyes. The illustrations not only describe the current position in the story, but is also bordered by art that tells what has already happened and forbodes what will happen next. 

  13. Curious George
    Curious George The original series by Margaret and H.A. Rey are not my kids' favorite as the text is too long and story too wandering to hold their attention. Once Boots was old enough to digest them, she was into other types of stories. The newer Curious George books, such as Curious George Goes to the Aquarium are favorites. They love seeing George's curiosity get him into trouble and equally so, they like it when he redeems himself with some act of kindness.  The stories are thoughtful, funny and good hearted. Note: my girls don’t care for the PBS Kids' Curious George stories. They are educational, but lack the fun and mischief of the slightly older series.
The article Raising a Reader has tips for making reading a fun and engaging experience for you and your children.

[1]Note about list selection:
That's it?!?  Where's The Lorax and  Go, Dog, Go! and Where the Wild Things Are?
You're right, these are fantastic books, but I figured you would already know that...  I've omitted the books that we all remember from our own childhood, in favor of more contemporary and specialized titles.





Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Building Baby’s Library with a Dozen Excellent Books

This post is the result of a request from my friend Lea, who is becoming an Aunt. (Congrats Lea!!) As a fellow bibliophile, she wanted to ensure her new niece is well stocked for her arrival.

What an excellent idea, in a world inundated with plastic toys and stuffed animals, books are a welcome addition to a new baby's nursery. Babies won't outgrow them as fast as that super-cute onesie you saw, and are less likely to fall victim to a diaper blow-out. Heavy emphasis on likely, sometimes there are no safe quarters…

Note about links to Powell's Books: Links are directed a new version of each book to ensure link viability. Be sure to peruse the little box on the right labeled: More copies of this ISBN. 
Due to the awesomeness that is Powell's, the title is usually available used, or on sale.
Also included are three helpful books for new parents. While it's true that babies don't come with user manuals, (thank goodness, those sharp corners would be uncomfortable) these books make fair substitutions and can get you, or the new parent you're gifting, through some bewildering situations.

Twelve Books for Babies
I recommend the board book versions of these titles; they can withstand substantial abuse and the pages are easier for baby hands to turn without tearing. Best of all, the curdled milk of spit-up rolls right off the page.
  1. Available at Powell's
    Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See? by Bill Martin Jr. and Eric Carle
    This was given to me as a baby shower gift for my first daughter. I flipped through it—really?? Yes, really. The genius of this book is in the simple, vibrant illustrations that are easy for babies to focus on. The super short, rhythmic text holds your baby’s attention and leads into the identity of the next animal. Make the animal voices growl or chirp appropriately and your baby will make you read it again and again. Which you do, because parents are powerless against baby giggles and smiles.

  2. Available at Powell's
    Goodnight Moon by Margaret Wise Brown
    This book is full of comfort and ritual, which, as the title suggests, is great for bedtime. The high contrasting illustrations are interesting and easy for babies to see. Inspired by this book, Berzo had to say goodnight to all her favorite people and things before going to sleep and you do it, because—sleep. 

  3. Available at Powell's
    Where Is Baby's Belly Button? by Karen Katz
    My girls loved all of Karen Katz's lift-the-flap books and this one was a favorite for a long time. The drawings are cute, yet easy to decode and taught them body part names while having fun. The flaps will tear off sooner rather than later, but it's nothing a little tape and Elmer’s glue won't fix.  

  4. Available at Powell's
    Owl Babies by Martin Waddell
    I've read this story so many times I have it memorized, even though it's quite lengthy. It tells a sweet, reassuring story about baby owls that wake up in their tree to find their mommy gone. They wait, and wonder, and worry, until she makes her happy return. Having it memorized comes in handy, as my girls find it so comforting that they like hearing it if they're having trouble sleeping or anxious waiting for the doctor. I just start, “Once there were three baby owls, Sarah, and Percy, and Bill…” and the tension in them just drifts away.

  5. Available at Powell's
    The Very Hungry Caterpillar by Eric Carle
    My girls loved the illustrations, which are very simple, yet vibrant, and the funny rhythmic story about a tiny, insatiable caterpillar who drills holes through some very yummy foods and gets a tummy ache, before becoming the inevitable butterfly.  The story invites kids to play at counting.

  6. Available at Powell's
    Look at Baby's House by Peter Linenthal
    This series of books are intended for very young babies who can focus best on very high contrasting, simple images. However, Berzo discovered them at the library when she was about two years old and is still captivated by them.  She has the short descriptions memorized and enjoys "reading" the book by herself.

  7. Available at Powell's
    Little Blue Truck by Alice Schertle
    This one made the list primarily because it has mad Dad appeal. It was my husband's favorite to read to our girls, and he could tolerate reading it over and over as babies love/insist/demand.  I too liked the good natured story about the value of friendship and the original, interesting, illustrations.  Berzo enjoyed pretending to feed me the different animals to watch me make yucky faces.

  8. Available at Barnes & Noble
    Mess Monsters Beth Shoshan,
    We had more fun with this book than any other. We'd play right along with the monsters; I'd grab their little baby feet and stomp the car and cushions illustrations like the monsters. It wasn't long before they'd put their chubby little feet up there all on their own. This book was so well loved, it actually fell apart, and I had to re assemble it with fiber tape. It's available only at Barnes & Noble.

  9. Available at Powell's
    ABC: A Child's First Alphabet Book by Alison Jay
    It is Alison Jay's frame worthy artwork that sets this book above all other alphabet books I've read. Although the text is usually the same old “Aa is for Apple” the artwork is beautiful and filled with many other “A” objects to be found. The pictures also includes clues to the next page and vestiges of the previous. There is enough going on that it doesn't become tiresome for adults. Berzo could identify all the letters of the alphabet by 18 months, entirely due to this book.

  10. Available at Powell's
    Good Night, Gorilla by Peggy Rathmann (Illustrator)
    This book has no text, only funny vibrant illustrations that tell of a mischievous gorilla that steals  Zoo Keeper Joe's keys, follows him throughout his evening rounds, releasing all the animals as he goes.  The animals follow Joe with the intention of snuggling down in Joe's room for the night.  Not having text frees you to narrate the story, ask your child questions about what they think Gorrilla is doing. For added fun, dig out a set of your baby's colorful keys to "unlock" the cage doors just like Gorilla does in the story.

  11. Available at Powell's
    On My Leaf by Sara Gillingham
    This series of finger puppet books by Sara Gillingham are all sweet and fun. The text is short and simple, which is best for babies and there's no end to the creative, funny things you can do while animating the finger puppet. 


  12. Available at Powell's
    On the Night You Were Born by Nancy Tillman
    This book came as a gift for Berzo's baby shower, which was wonderful because I would have passed this up at the bookstore. When Berzo was a baby, it didn't appeal to her, the text was too long and the pictures were too busy—but I loved it. And my older daughter adored hearing it as I read the poetic lines to them, my voice thick with love, while our eyes dined on whimsical artwork.

Three Essential Books for New Parents
These make great gifts for new parents, and may save some sleepless nights. Be sure to gift them before baby comes, you know, when they still have time for reading.
  1. Available at Powell's
    The Happiest Baby on the Block: The New Way to Calm Crying and Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep Longer by Harvey Karp
    This book helps new parents comfort crying newborns. The advice is particularly relevant for the “fourth trimester” or first three months of life. There is nothing more bewildering than holding a well fed, dry, burped baby that won't stop screaming. There is help, and it is in this book.


  2. Available at Powell's
    What to Expect the First Year by Heidi Eisenberg Murkoff
    This book goes month to month through the first year of baby's life, explaining what milestones baby should be reaching and what is up and coming. It is filled with almost every “is this normal?” question I had. It was a little creepy at times reading the same concern I expressed to my husband stated verbatim in this book. Paradoxically, our parenting journeys are all unique and yet exactly the same.

  3. Available at Powell's
    The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night by Elizabeth Pantley
    Sleep. The one luxury new parents crave above all others. Pediatrician's standard advice (and in the What to Expect book) is tough it out until about four months, then, if they pass their physical, let “them cry it out”. If you, like me, are too tenderhearted for this, or it simply didn't work, there is another way. This book is loaded with practical advice and encourages you to pick and choose ideas  to build a custom solution that fits your family chemistry. It is hope for the attachment style parents.


Importance of Inscriptions:
Never miss an opportunity to tell a gift recipient how much you love them by writing a thoughtful inscription.  As a parent, don't miss reading these to your little one.  My girls insist I read the inscriptions on their books, even if I was the one who wrote them. I hope my words and voice will remain with them, even after I have gone.

**Note: For you, my dearest reader, I set aside my literary elitist tendencies, with no little difficulty, and included the books my family loved the most, despite their widespread popularity.  *gasp*

Raising a Reader provides tips and ideas for helping your child build a lifelong love for literature.

Boots reading Goodnight Moon with her Oma